''Wife or mother who is important? ''The answers of these 3 married men may remind you
I believe that many people have heard such a "fatal" question: when your wife and mother fall into the water at the same time, who will you save first? Such a question, as the name suggests, is to hope that married men can assign a degree of importance between wives and mothers.
Some time ago, a netizen posted a post online asking for help, hoping that someone could give a perfect answer. According to this netizen, after he got married, his wife and mother have been at loggerheads, often quarreling over trivial matters.
In fact, this netizen knows very well that the quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often not because of the matter itself, but because of a defense of family status. Many mothers believe that their son is the head of the family, and as his mother, they should be respected.
From the wife's point of view, she usually works hard and bears children for her husband, so why should she be angry with her elders at home. Such two incompatible ideas led to the emergence of such a fatal problem, which annoyed this netizen endlessly.
In fact, many netizens do not know how to answer such a question. Because for most people, wives and mothers are very important existences. At this time, it is really confusing to ask oneself to distinguish between good and bad.
So, who is more important, wife or mother? We might as well listen to these three married men.
The Views of Three Married Men
Regarding this issue, Mr. Zhang said: "Filial piety to parents is a child's bounden duty, but taking care of and understanding her husband is not something a wife has to do. Under such objective conditions, the wife does the hard work of housework, takes care of the husband and raises the children. For me, the wife is more important. ''
In this regard, Mr. Li holds a different view: "Although the wife has contributed a lot to the family, the mother is more important than the mother. From a personal point of view, my mother gave me life and raised me up. Such a heavy kindness is something I can never repay no matter how much I pay. ''
The same question came to Mr. Lin and got a different answer:''In my opinion, a wife and a mother are equally important. Both my parents and my wife have given me the warmth from the family, and both have given me encouragement and comfort when I was helpless. They are the two most important women in my life and deserve equal respect. ''
In fact, regarding the answer to this question, I believe that different people have different results in their hearts. But I believe that most people have thought carefully before giving the answer, and it was difficult for them to make a choice. This is because such a question itself is meaningless, and there should be no comparison between mothers and wives.
Wife and mother should not fight
Some people compare wives to mothers because both women love themselves at the same time. But in fact, these two loves can exist at the same time, and should never be opposed to each other.
On the one hand, the wife's love for her husband is derived from love. Although this kind of emotion is not limited by responsibilities and obligations, with the establishment of the family, such a love will rise to family affection. At this point, a tacit understanding will be gradually established between husband and wife, and then they will respect each other as guests.
On the other hand, a mother's love for her son is an emotion based on blood ties. Children are born from the womb of their mothers, and this process is often accompanied by intense pain. It can be said that the child has experienced such an unforgettable moment with his mother. Therefore, the mother's love for her son is also extremely deep.
Such two kinds of love with completely different standpoints can definitely be accepted at the same time. The wife and mother should gradually come together over time and truly become a family, instead of being incompatible with each other and insisting on distinguishing the superior from the inferior.