''Who is more important, wife or mother? ''The answers of these 3 married men may give you a reminder
I believe many people have heard such a ''deadly'' question: wife and mother fell into the water at the same time, who will you save first? Such a question, as the name suggests, is to hope that married men can assign an important rank between their wives and their mothers.
Some time ago, a netizen posted on the Internet for help, hoping that someone could give a perfect answer. According to this netizen, after he got married, his wife and mother had been at a stalemate and often quarreled over trivial matters.
In fact, this netizen knows very well that the quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often not because of the matter itself, but because of a defense of family status. Many mothers believe that their son is the head of the family, and as his mother, he should be respected.
From the wife's point of view, she usually works hard and bears children for her husband, so why should she be angry with her elders at home? Such two incompatible ideas have caused such a fatal problem, which annoyed the netizen.
In fact, many netizens do not know how to answer such a question. Because for most people, wives and mothers are very important existences, it is really confusing to ask yourself to distinguish between good and bad at this time.
So, who is more important, the wife or the mother? Let's hear what these three married men have to say.
Views of three married men
Regarding this issue, Mr. Zhang said: ''It is the duty of children to be filial to their parents, but taking care of their husbands and understanding them is not something a wife has to do. Under such objective conditions, my wife worked tirelessly to take care of the housework and teach her husband and children. For me, my wife is more important. ''
In this regard, Mr. Li holds a different view: ''Although the wife has paid a lot for the family, the mother is more important than the mother. From a personal point of view, my mother gave me life and raised me up. Such a heavy kindness is something I can't repay no matter how much I pay. ''
The same question came to Mr. Lin and got a different answer: ''In my opinion, a wife and a mother are equally important. Both my parents and my wife have given me the warmth from my family, and they have given me encouragement and comfort when I was helpless. They are the two most important women in my life and deserve equal respect. ''
In fact, regarding the answer to this question, I believe that different people have different results in their hearts. But I believe that most people have thought carefully before giving the answer, and it was difficult for them to make a choice. This is because such a question itself is meaningless, and there should be no comparison between mothers and wives.
Wife and mother should not stand up
Some people compare wives to mothers because both women love themselves at the same time. But in fact, these two loves can exist at the same time, and should never be opposed to each other.
On the one hand, a wife's love for her husband comes from love. Although this kind of emotion is not limited by responsibilities and obligations, with the establishment of a family, such a love will rise to family affection. At this point, the husband and wife will gradually establish a tacit understanding, and then make each other respectful.
On the other hand, a mother's love for her son is an emotion based on kinship. Children are born from the mother's womb, and this process is often accompanied by intense pain. It can be said that the child has experienced such an unforgettable moment with his mother. Therefore, a mother's love for her son is also extremely deep.
Such two kinds of love with completely different standpoints can definitely be accepted at the same time. Wife and mother should gradually come together over time and truly become a family, instead of being incompatible with each other, and have to distinguish between the good and the bad.