Why are the more filial children the less popular? The following 3 reasons, every sentence pokes your heart
With the popularization of the two-child policy, more and more families choose to have two or even multiple children. There are many children, so it is inevitable to be compared. It is said that a bowl of water is flat, but the scale is not so easy to grasp.
In the end? It is often the children who are least "favoured" who serve tea and water to their parents and are filial to the elderly.
He was unpopular when he was a child, but he is the most filial child when he grows up
Back then, Manman was the second child in the family, with an older sister and a younger brother, and she was the most unpopular one since she was a child. My sister is the first child in the family, and she has exclusively enjoyed the favor of her parents for three years, and she is used to it.
The new clothes are given to the younger sister after they are worn out, and the older sister eats the delicious ones first, because her mother will say, "My sister's class is tight, it takes a lot of effort, so I want to eat something good." Manman nodded sensibly.
With the arrival of the younger brother, the balance in the family tilted again. The younger brother is the youngest, and both parents and grandparents have devoted a lot of effort to him. Manman, who is caught in the middle, is a little embarrassed.
Now that my father has passed away, my mother's pension has become a problem. The eldest sister is busy with business, and vaguely expresses "raising children for old age". The youngest son just got married, and he hesitated and said "it's not convenient to live together".
After Manman learned of the situation, she quickly took her mother to her home. She said to the old man: "When I was a child, I rarely had the opportunity to stay alone with you. Now I have time, thank you mother!"
After hearing these words, the old man burst into tears, feeling extremely remorseful in her heart. She did not expect that her beloved elder daughter and younger son would let go of her, and in the end the second daughter who was the most disliked would take care of her for the elderly.
Analysis: Why are more filial children less popular?
- Sensible, rarely make demands
People say that "crying children get milk". The more filial children are, the more well-behaved and sensible they are. They understand the difficulties of their parents and the situation of the family, and rarely ask for their own.
Even if it is brought up, it is cautious, for fear of angering the parents. Conflicts with brothers and sisters are rarely resolved, neither fighting nor grabbing. Other children may throw temper tantrums and cry, and parents have to appease them.
Over time, my needs are ignored by my parents, and I will be reprimanded and unwelcome if I do something "out of line" a little bit, because my parents have become accustomed to it.
- Can't make parents happy
The more filial children are, the more action-oriented they are. They seldom express their love for their parents with words, but take the initiative to undertake tasks such as doing housework and taking care of younger siblings.
On the other hand, sweet-talking children will please their parents, who can speak well. Parents think the children are really smart and love them more, while they ignore the slightly dull children.
- Parents are "naturally" eccentric
There are various reasons for parents' partiality, such as patriarchal preference, children who look like themselves, children who like trouble, etc. Some parents are not aware of it.
If you have been secretly "labeled" by your parents since birth, no matter how hard you try the day after tomorrow, it may be difficult to reverse it.
Why are there more and more unfilial children? It is inseparable from the education of parents
① Excessively pampering children
Parents dote on their children too much, and develop their children to be self-centered, who only know how to take but not give. It is unrealistic for such a child to expect him to be filial.
② Lack of a grateful heart
The pampered children feel that everything they enjoy is taken for granted. Once the elderly are "useless", they want to kick them away, lacking a grateful attitude.
③ Parents did not set a good example
Nowadays, many families in China are big families with four generations living under the same roof. If parents do not set an example of filial piety, then no matter how much they love their children, they may not get a good ending.