It's the mother's business to take care of the children, so it's okay for the father to be responsible for earning money? Expert: Children brought up by fathers are better

Xiaomei, who has just been promoted to a treasure mother, has been super depressed recently. As a novice mother without much parenting experience, she is always in a hurry to take care of her baby. The natal mother is helping the elder brother with the children, and she can't spare herself to help. The mother-in-law comes to take care of the confinement child, and she is unwilling to stay and help on the grounds that the few acres of land in her hometown need to be looked after. Xiaomei took care of the baby all day by herself, and she was also busy with housework. She was really exhausted, so she discussed with her father whether she could apply to the company, try not to arrange overtime work, come back early from get off work at night, and help her to take care of the baby together. As a result, as soon as Xiaomei's words came to the fore, Bao's father said: "I work overtime every day, is it because of this family? Taking care of the children is the mother's job, and the father is responsible for earning money!"

The mother takes care of the children at home, and the father earns money to support the family outside. This is probably the normal state of most families in China at present. Many families still remain in the "matriarchal clan" stage when it comes to raising children. The big and small things about the children are all on the shoulders of the mothers. Taking care of and educating the children are all the mothers' affairs. "Dad" has become a dispensable role, occasionally cameo, but also looks so clumsy and rough. Therefore, in many families in China, the father is more like a shadow to the child, and there is a serious absence in the process of the child's growth and education.

Many people have always been influenced by the "male master outside, woman master inside", thinking that feeding babies, changing diapers, telling stories, putting them to sleep...is not what men should do, men just need to work hard To make money to support the family, it is only natural for a woman to be responsible for her husband and children. Many fathers only focus on their own work, ignoring the interaction with their children, and leave the child's upbringing and upbringing to their mothers. They don't know that this lack of father's love will cause irreparable regrets for their children's growth.

We often say: the family is the child's first school, and the parents are the child's first teacher. This "first teacher" not only includes mother, but also father naturally. It is not only the mother's responsibility to take care of the children. In fact, it is more advantageous for the father to take care of the children. Scientists from Yale University in the United States conducted a 12-year follow-up survey on children of all ages from infants to teens. The research results show that children who are brought up by men have higher IQs and higher grades in school. It is often better, and it is easier to succeed in society in the future. So what are the benefits of father taking care of children? Let's follow Ruolan's mother to learn more about it.

1. Children led by fathers are more self-reliant.

Men tend to be self-reliant and therefore teach their children to be self-reliant as well. Mothers prefer to help their children do what they can; fathers often do not arrange for their children, but encourage their children to do things with their own hands and brains, and deal with problems independently. The study found that, in addition to being more willing to take responsibility and assertiveness, children raised by fathers are also more tolerant and open-minded, with a more rational and logical way of thinking, and are more independent than children raised by mothers, all of which are the future A necessary condition for career success and the pursuit of your ideal life.

2. Children led by fathers are more active.

Women are easily influenced by traditional concepts and have certain weaknesses, such as timidity, low self-esteem, dependence, and lack of professionalism, while men are relatively bold, confident, independent, competitive, and professional. , Positive personality is conducive to the cultivation of children.

3. Children led by fathers are good at exploring

Men like to explore, and they often engage in some exploratory activities with their children. If the child takes the toy apart, the mother often scolds him. But the father often disagrees, and even disassembles the toy with the child to satisfy the child's curiosity, and then teaches him to put the toy back together. In addition, fathers are more interested in new things, which will also stimulate children's interest in new things.

4. The children brought by the father are cheerful

In the eyes of children, a father is a symbol of strength, wisdom, fortitude, and strength. With a father by his side, children feel safe and their lives are full of warmth and joy. The strength and fortitude of the father give the child infinite strength, and it is also the reliance on which the child can rely for a sense of security throughout his life, which shows the irreplaceable role of male education.

5. Children brought up by fathers have stronger social adaptability

Fathers and mothers have different ways of thinking. For example, father's rationality and mother's sensibility can bring different thinking to children. When the father participates in the child's education, the child has the opportunity to be exposed to the diversified behavior styles of adults and can also expand the child's social activities, which is an essential condition for cultivating children's social skills. Under the influence of the father, the child will behave more rationally, avoid being emotional, and improve the child's social adaptability.

Nowadays, the concept of "fatherly parenting" is more and more concerned and valued by the parents of the younger generation. The growth of a child requires not only the careful care of the mother, but also the attentive company of the father. There is a large gender difference between men and women. The more fathers participate, the more they can complement mothers and make up for the bias of women's education. Family education with the participation of the father is considered perfect. Father's love is like a mountain, and mother's love is like the sea. Father and mother have their own advantages in family education. They must be complementary and balanced in order to benefit the growth of children. So, dads, please don’t be an invisible dad, and don’t miss out on your child’s growth!