It is the mother's business to take care of the children, and the father is responsible for making money? Expert: Children brought by fathers are better

Xiaomei, who has just been upgraded to a mother, has been super depressed recently. As a novice mother with little parenting experience, I am always in a hurry to take care of my baby. Her mother-in-law was helping her brother with the child, and couldn't get away to help. After her mother-in-law came to take care of the confinement, she was unwilling to stay and help because she had to take care of a few acres of land in her hometown. Xiaomei takes the baby all day and has to do housework by herself. She is really exhausted, so she discussed with Bao's father whether she can apply for it with the company, try not to arrange overtime, come back from get off work early in the evening, join hands and take care of the baby together. As a result, as soon as Xiaomei's words were raised, Bao's father said: "I work overtime every day, isn't it for this family? It is mother's business to take care of children, and father is responsible for making money!"

The mother takes care of the children at home, and the father earns money to support the family outside. This is probably the norm for most families in China at present. Many families are still stuck in the stage of "matrilineal clan" when it comes to raising children. The big and small matters related to children are all shouldered by the mother, and it is the mother's job to take care of and educate the children. "Dad" has become a dispensable character, occasionally making a cameo, but also appearing so clumsy and rough. Therefore, in many Chinese families, the father is more like a shadow to the child, and there is a serious absence in the child's growth and education.

A lot of people have been influenced by "male outside, female inside" and think that feeding babies, changing diapers, telling stories, coaxing them to sleep...is not what men should do, men just need to work hard To earn money to support the family, it is only natural for a woman to be responsible for the husband and the child. Many fathers only focus on their own work, ignoring the interaction with their children, and leave the child's upbringing and upbringing to the mother. Little do they know that this lack of fatherly love will cause irreparable growth regrets to the children.

We often say: the family is the child's first school, and the parents are the child's first teacher. This "first teacher" includes not only mother, but also father. Taking care of children is not just the responsibility of mothers. In fact, fathers have more advantages in bringing children. Scientists at Yale University in the United States have conducted a 12-year follow-up survey on children of all ages from infants to teenagers. The research results show that children brought up by men have high IQ and their grades in school. It is often better, and it is easier to succeed in society in the future. So what are the benefits of a father bringing a child? Let's follow Ruolan's mother to learn more about it.

1. Children brought by fathers are more self-reliant.

Men tend to be self-reliant, so they teach their children to be self-reliant as well. Mothers prefer to help their children to do what they can; fathers often do not take care of their children, but encourage their children to do things by themselves and deal with problems independently. The study found that in addition to being more responsible and assertive, children brought up by fathers are more tolerant and open-minded, have more rational and logical ways of thinking, and are more independent than children brought up by mothers, and all of this is the future. A necessary condition for career success and the pursuit of your ideal life.

2. Children brought by fathers are more active.

Women are easily influenced by traditional concepts and have certain weaknesses, such as timidity, inferiority, dependence, and lack of professionalism, while men are relatively bold, confident, independent, competitive, and professional. , Positive personality is conducive to cultivating children to become talents.

3. The children brought by the father are good at exploring

Men are adventurous and tend to engage in exploratory activities with children. If the child takes the toy apart, the mother often scolds him. The father often disagrees, and even disassembles the toys with the child to satisfy the child's curiosity, and then teach him to put the toys together. In addition, fathers are more interested in new things, which will also stimulate children's interest in new things.

4. The children brought by the father are cheerful

In the eyes of children, the father is a symbol of strength, wisdom, fortitude, and strength. With their father by their side, children feel safe and their lives are full of warmth and joy. The father's strength and fortitude give the child infinite strength, and it is also the reliance on which the child can gain a sense of security throughout his life, which shows the irreplaceable role of male education.

5. Children brought by fathers have stronger social adaptability

The way of thinking of father and mother is different, such as father's rationality and mother's sensibility, can bring different thinking to children. When fathers are involved in their children's education, children have the opportunity to contact the diverse behavior styles of adults and can also expand the scope of children's social activities, which is an essential condition for cultivating children's social skills. Under the influence of the father, the child will be more rational in dealing with others, avoid being emotional, and improve the child's social adaptability.

Nowadays, the concept of "parenting by fathers" is more and more concerned and valued by the parents of the younger generation. The growth of a child requires not only the careful care of the mother, but also the careful company of the father. There is a big gender difference between men and women. The more fathers participate, the more they can complement their mothers and make up for the biased education of women. Home education with the participation of the father is perfect. A father’s love is like a mountain, and a mother’s love is like a sea. Fathers and mothers have their own advantages in family education. They must complement each other and balance in order to benefit their children’s growth. So, dads, please don't be an invisible dad, don't miss your child's growth again!