The child was beaten by his mother before he went home to eat! Is the purpose of beating children education or emotional outlet?
Recently, I saw a video that was very sad. Such an infuriating incident happened in an elevator in Hongxi Huating Community, Luoding City, Guangdong Province, and the protagonist of the incident was a mother.
The cause of the incident was that the child was playing at a classmate's house at noon and was unwilling to go home for dinner. It was originally a simple and trivial matter, but the mother was furious. You can see the mother slapped and kicked the child in the elevator.
Even kicked the child in the stomach many times, and the violent incident lasted for one minute, which really shocked netizens.
What the mother did to the child in the video made netizens unbelievable. It is understandable for parents to educate their children, but what the parent did is not as simple as education, but turned into violence, which is a kind of self-emotion The way of venting is at the expense of the child's injury.
- The purpose of beating children should be education, not emotional venting
"Hope your child will become a dragon, and your daughter will become a phoenix" is the wish of most parents. When parents spend energy and money on their children, they will also forcibly suppress their own wishes on their children. They want their children to grow up to be what they want, and if something goes wrong, parents will think that their efforts are not worth it and that their efforts are in vain, so they will feel resentment and use violence and roaring. , intimidation, etc. to vent on the child.
As a parent, your responsibility for your child is to nurture, both nurture and nurture, and there are many ways to nurture. Violence is the worst kind of education. The mother in this case obviously committed violence in the name of education. Punishment, venting one's own emotions, does not help the child's growth.
- You should also master the proportions and methods of beating children
In fact, parents scold their children for education since ancient times. For example, if a student makes a mistake, the teacher will beat the palm with a ruler; if the child steals something, the parent will spank the child's butt... Although we do not advocate relying on spanking for education, if the child steals something, the parent spanks Serious mistakes have really been made. Parents need to rely on scolding to educate them. There are also regulations to go, and methods and methods need to be paid attention to.
In my opinion, parents should grasp the following proportions when scolding their children: First, the frequency of smacking should not be too much. Frequent smacking will only make them immune, ignoring the educational significance of spanking; second, the scale of spanking should be well grasped. , must not hit the child's head, stomach and some sensitive parts; the third is to observe and study the effect of beating, be sure to aim at education.
- The impact of chronic violence on children
Many parents think that hitting a child can make him have a longer memory, and understand that it is wrong to do so, but for a long time, the child will ignore the reason behind each hit, making the child more confident, no matter how bad he does it. , it is nothing more than being beaten one more time, which forms a vicious circle. The long-term abuse of parents by their children will affect the child's physical health; second, it has no educational significance and is completely blind; third, it affects the child's mental health, becoming irritable, irritable, inferior, and introverted.
- Learning to communicate effectively is far more useful than fighting
I heard people say before that when you buy something, you still remember to read the instruction manual, but you never learn to raise a child, just blindly raise it, how can you raise a good child, and how can you become a qualified parent? Indeed, raising children requires attention to methods and methods, and it needs to be different from person to person.
If parents can understand the characteristics of their children, learn to communicate effectively, and try some other educational methods, it is far more useful than spanking. When parents discipline their children, they should try their best to be rewarded and punished, fully respected, often encouraged, and often communicated, etc. Only in this way can they educate better children.