What is the difference between a two-child family and a one-child family? These three aspects are clear

There are several typical two-child families around, and it is obvious that some families are different in nature from one-child families. Here are two examples for comparison:

1. Xiaowen is a sophomore student and has a six-year-old younger brother at home. Every time he goes home from winter and summer vacations, he is tortured unbearably. He not only has to help his younger brother with his homework, but also helps his younger brother with handwritten newspapers. Because his parents were not highly educated, the burden of mentoring his younger brother fell on him alone.

Sometimes parents care too much about his younger brother and he will feel lost and often find someone to talk to. In comparison, Xiaoyi is an only child, and the family revolves around her when she comes home from vacation. Her parents, grandparents and grandparents are all on her own. Every time she goes home from vacation, she lives comfortably and happily.

2. Xiao Zhang has a younger sister who is three years younger. The two brothers and sisters have a very good relationship. Every time they go home from vacation, they will play together, take care of each other, and talk. Brothers and sisters are better than friends and are envied by many people.

As an only child, neighbor Xiao Li has no playmates since she was a child, and she does everything alone. Every time she has a small secret, she dare not tell her parents, so she can only hold back and find someone to talk to.

The above are two typical examples. Most of the children of second-child families get along with these two types, and the feelings of only-children are similar to these two types.

The difference between a two-child family and a one-child family

In real life, family relationships are diverse, and many differences are derived from this basic mode of getting along. So what are the most obvious differences between a two-child family and a one-child family? Three aspects are at a glance:

1. Economy

Economy is the biggest difference between an ordinary two-child family and a one-child family. With a second child, it is necessary to double the effort in terms of food, clothing, housing, transportation, reading and education, from small clothes to large books, from kindergarten to university. Money is not a small amount, and for many families, it can be difficult to come up with that amount.

Some people joked on the Internet that when there is no baby to eat five dishes, one baby can only eat three dishes, and two babies eat one dish. Compared with two-child families and one-child families with economic conditions, there is a big gap in the quality of life.

2. Emotion

There is a short TV series about a primary school student who runs away from home because his parents want a second child. In real life, many big treasures are afraid that their parents will ignore them after giving birth to a second child and lose their status as the little overlords of the family, so they try to resist and even threaten their parents in extreme ways like running away from home.

Some families forcibly have a second child. Parents subtly put their minds on the younger children, and gradually ignore Dabao's feelings, which may lead them to hate siblings and affect the family's emotions. On the other hand, in a one-child family, the children receive complete care and no partiality. So emotion is also one of the differences between the two.

3. Treatment

One of the most serious problems in families with two children is the treatment of their children by parents. Children of similar ages have similar needs and are easy to achieve equality in material giving. Children with a slightly different age have different economic needs. Parents give one person money and another It seems unfair to a person.

For example, an 8-year-old brother asks for money to buy toys, which is doted in the eyes of an 18-year-old brother, while the older brother asks for money to report a tour group, but he will be dissatisfied by the younger brother. . The only child does not have this problem, as small as pocket money, as large as family property, there will be no comparison and gap.

Although the second-child family seems to have many disadvantages, looking in the positive direction, as long as the children are excellent, understand each other and help each other when they grow up, it is not a bad thing. On the other hand, if the education is not good, the only difference between a two-child family and a one-child family is 'two demon kings of confusion' vs 'a demon king of confusion'.

So no matter it is a family with several children, education is the most important.

So how to educate the second child family

1. Emotionally:

Parents of two-child families should teach their children how to unite siblings, correctly view the differential treatment of parents, and tell them that the difference in money and communication does not mean the difference in love, but only that a certain child needs it more at a certain time.

For families who are planning to have a second child but are afraid of their children's opposition, parents should actively do a good job of ideological work, avoid adults teasing their children about things like dividing family property and caring, actively guide them to accept new family members, and cultivate a sense of responsibility and take responsibility.

2. In learning:

There are many opportunities for success, but studying hard has the greatest chance of success. Whether it is a second-child family or a one-child family, parents should actively urge their children to study, not only to accumulate their knowledge, but also to cultivate their temperament, cultivate their body and mind, and their children will grow up in the future. Parents can also worry less.

3. In character:

As the saying goes, a good baby will develop in an all-round way in moral, intellectual, physical, and labor. Before intelligence, the most important thing is morality. If a person has poor morality and wisdom, he will only become a criminal with high IQ.

Therefore, cultivating children's excellent character is the first and necessary. Teach children the correct values ​​and worldview, and let their three views develop within the scope of morality. No matter how many children there are in the family, the question of morality needs to be repeated many times. It must go deep into the bone marrow and mold the child into a moral and ethical person from the inside out.

What do you think is the difference between a two-child family and a one-child family?