Stop accusing children of 'false effort' as being caused by 'intermittent learning', use these 3 tricks to improve
As the saying goes, "No pain, no gain", hardworking people will sooner or later go to the road of success, because there will be rewards for what they put in, but the author thinks that people who work hard will gain, but Efforts also need to pay attention to methods. Some "false efforts" are a waste of time and energy, and will not bring much benefit. On the contrary, time is gone forever, so I want to get what I want through my own hard work As a result, it is also necessary to pay attention to the methods and methods of hard work. You cannot blindly make your children work hard. The first thing you do when you come home from school every day is to study. Some parents will ask their children to finish all their homework before they can rest and go to sleep. As a result, many children cannot rest until late at night. , This will affect the child's sleep quality and daytime lecture quality. Therefore, the author believes that when children are studying, they must master the correct learning methods, and don't waste time and energy in vain.
A few days ago, a treasure mother complained to the author, saying that her child has been very obedient since she was a child, and she usually listens carefully in class, and remembers notes very carefully. Even the teacher thinks this child is a good student, so don’t worry about it all the time. But there is a problem that the child's grades can't be improved. After class, Baoma also tutors the children. Every day, the children study until late before resting. Such hard work can't get back a good grade. Mother Bao is very distressed. In fact, this is not an isolated case. Children in many families will have this common problem. This behavior is called "false effort". The reason for this situation has a lot to do with learning methods. Relationship.
Parents hope that their children will be able to stand out from others. They should keep their grades in their hands from an early age, for fear of losing at the starting line. As a child, they are also burdened with the burden of learning. Every time I pass by the primary school campus, I see a group of cute little ones. When children run out of the campus with a heavy schoolbag on their backs, they will feel that after school is the happiest time for children, because they need to face the supervision and learning guidance of their parents when they go home. In fact, children are studying. Very hard work, even several times more time than others, the effect may not necessarily be effective, and these negative effects are inseparable from "intermittent learning".
What is "intermittent learning"?
"Intermittent learning", as the name implies, means that during the learning process, there is a period of rest and play, and the learning state will not be continued continuously. This state will prevent children from concentrating on learning, and the middle rest Time will disturb the children's thinking of learning. When they have time to answer a question, their thinking is interrupted because of the break. When they return to the state, they need to spend more time to answer. Such a learning effect will not bring any benefits to the children. .
We all know that learning requires the use of the brain, and the thinking is active. Once our brain is disturbed by something, it will be difficult to return to the previous state of concentration. When parents accompany their children to study, they should pay attention to observe their children's learning status , Some children will pretend to be in front of their parents, and they are not really devoted to learning, because as long as they cope with the time, they can play and rest in exchange, which is also the origin of "false effort".
What are the implications of "intermittent learning"?
Easy to form lazy inertial thinking
Parents try their best to make their children calm down and study their homework. Many parents think that using some seductive methods to trick their children into calming down and studying. This way will make children easy to form a habit of thinking. You can have your own time to play during the study time. The happiest time for every child is to have their own leisure time and not be bound by learning. Therefore, this learning method of parents will make children develop lazy and inertial thinking .
learning quality is not high
''If you want to be determined, you should think about your true character, and you must work hard to study. ''If you want to become a master, you must work hard. No one can get something for nothing. As parents, we should instill in our children some ideas of hard work and reward. Don't let children feel that the current study is for the parents. This kind of coping learning will not have high quality. "Intermittent" learning will make children feel that completing homework is to complete the tasks of parents, not for themselves. The quality of such learning is not high. of.
Gradually wear down the child's patience
Recently, a lot of news is about the negative news about parents tutoring their children. Originally, parents are very patient and gentle, but when it comes to tutoring their children, they become grumpy and suspicious of life. In fact, parents are in the process of tutoring their children. It is also a subtle process that will indirectly affect the child's patience. ''Intermittent learning'' will make the child play after class before he is enthusiastic about learning, which will reflect that the child will lose patience when dealing with things and difficulties in the future, and will not have the perseverance to overcome him; learn the way of thinking intermittently We all know that when a person is concentrating on studying, the most taboo thing is to interrupt other people's thinking, especially children. Their hearts are not as strong and persistent as our adults. , can withstand these blows, once the child is interrupted, it will be difficult to restore the child's patience.
How to improve children's "false effort" and stay away from "intermittent learning"?
do the right thing at the right time
''Diligent thinking can lead to courageous progress, beneficial thinking + persistence in doing things, this is diligence in the full sense. ''Behind every hard work is purpose and meaning. Each of us has limited time, and time will never come back. As a parent, we must train our children to make good use of time from an early age. Do the right thing in the time you have, put it into effective action, don't waste time in vain, let the child devote himself to learning when it's time to learn, and don't be disturbed by other factors.
allocate energy reasonably
Everyone's energy is limited, too much investment is sometimes a waste of time and expressions, and can't get the desired effect, sometimes children stay in the room for several hours silently doing homework and studying, but this Is it really hard to study hard for a few hours? Maybe the child is in a daze facing the textbook homework or doing other things that have nothing to do with learning? As parents, they should not only play a supervisory role, but also reasonably allocate their children's study time. They have no concept of time and their own energy. They only know that they are tired, need to rest, and don't want to continue studying. Parents can set a time period as the time for children to concentrate on learning. During this period, do not set rest or interference factors, so that children can devote themselves to learning and allocate their learning energy reasonably.
Has super executive power
''A real strong person is not strong in making plans, but strong in execution. ''This sentence is more often heard by leaders in the workplace. In fact, this sentence is applicable to children. Each of us must take action to achieve the goal, and this action is ours. Execution ability, sometimes when we ask children to do something, the child's first reaction will be to push back and try to escape. Parents must learn to cultivate children's execution ability, so that children have a kind of thinking, whether it is in school or going out to society, execution Strength is indispensable, behind every harvest is hard work and sweat, which are inseparable from our execution ability; with super execution ability, children will be able to overcome the pressure of learning, Because they only think about how to improve the quality of learning in their minds, so that not only the time will be shortened, but the quality will also be improved.
The real hard work is not to compare who has put in more time, but to see who has the ideal result in the end; children burn the lights and study until late at night, and putting in so much time to study does not mean that she is really working hard. It's time to give yourself a kind of psychological comfort. It's easy to lie to others, but it's easier to lie to yourself. Parents must take care of their children and don't let their children lose at the starting line.