Stop accusing children of 'fake effort' being the fault of 'intermittent learning', use these 3 tricks to improve
As the saying goes, "no pains, no gain", hard-working people will sooner or later lead the way to success, because they will be rewarded for what they put in, but the author thinks that those who work hard will reap rewards, but Efforts also need to pay attention to methods. Some ''fake efforts'' are a waste of time and energy, and will not bring much benefit. On the contrary, time will never return, so I want to get what I want through my own hard work. As a result, it is also necessary to pay attention to the methods and methods of hard work. You cannot blindly make children work hard. The first thing to do when they come home from school every day is to study. Some parents will require their children to finish their homework before they can rest and sleep. As a result, many children cannot rest until late at night. , which will affect the child's sleep quality and the quality of daytime lectures. Therefore, the author believes that when children are learning, they must master the correct learning methods, and do not waste time and energy.
A few days ago, a treasured mother complained to the author, saying that her child was very obedient since she was a child. She usually listens carefully in class, and remembers notes carefully. Even the teacher thinks that this child is a good student, so you don’t have to worry about it all the time. But there is a problem that the child's grades can't be improved. After school, Bao's mother also has tutoring for the child. Every day, the child will study until very late before resting. Bao Mom is very distressed. In fact, this is not an isolated case. Children from many families have this common problem. This behavior is called ''false effort'', and the reason why this happens has a lot to do with learning methods. Relationship.
Parents all hope that their children can excel, and they have held their grades in their hands since childhood, for fear of losing at the starting line. As a child, they are also burdened with the heavy responsibility of learning. Every time the author passes through the primary school campus, I see a group of lovely children. When children run out of the campus with a heavy schoolbag, they will feel that this time after school is the happiest time for children, because they need to face the supervision and study guidance of their parents when they go home. In fact, children are learning. Very hard work, even several times more time than others, the effect may not be effective, and these negative effects are inseparable from ''intermittent learning''.
What is "intermittent learning"?
"Intermittent learning", as the name suggests, means that during the learning process, there is a period of time in the state of rest and play, and it will not continue to maintain the learning state. Such a state will make children unable to concentrate on learning. Time will disrupt the child's thinking of learning. When there is time to answer a question, the thinking will be interrupted because of rest. When it returns to the state, it will take more time to answer. This kind of learning effect will not bring any benefits to the child. .
We all know that learning requires the use of the brain, and the mind is in an active state. Once our brain is disturbed by something, it is difficult to return to the previous state of concentration. When parents are accompanying their children to study, they should pay attention to their children's learning status. , Some children will pretend to be in front of their parents, not really devote themselves to learning, because as long as they cope with the time, they can play and rest in exchange for play and rest, which is also the origin of ''false effort''.
"What's the impact of intermittent learning"?
Easy to form lazy inertial thinking
Parents try their best to get their children to study their homework. Many parents feel that they use some tempting methods to deceive their children to study. You can have your own time to play during the study time. The happiest time for each child is to have his own leisure time and not be bound by learning. Therefore, this kind of learning method of parents will make children develop lazy and inertial thinking. .
The quality of learning is not high
''I am determined to have a true character, and I must work hard in reading. ''If you want to become a superior person, you must work hard, and no one's achievements will come for nothing. As parents, we should instill in our children some ideas of hard work and hard work, and don't let children feel that the current learning is for parents. This kind of coping learning will not be of high quality. ''Intermittent'' learning will make children feel that completing after-school homework is to complete the task of parents, not for themselves, and the quality of such learning is not high. of.
Gradually drain the child's patience
Recently, a lot of news is about the negative news about parents counseling their children. Originally, parents are very patient and gentle, but when they get to counseling their children, they become grumpy and doubt life. In fact, when parents are counseling their children, It is also a subtle process, which will indirectly affect the child's patience. ''Intermittent learning'' will make the child have a kind of play time after class before he is eager to learn, which will reflect that the child will lose patience when dealing with things and difficulties in the future, and will not have the perseverance to overcome and conquer him; intermittently learn the way of thinking. We all know that when a person is concentrating on studying, the most taboo thing is to interrupt other people's thoughts, especially children, whose hearts are not as strong and persevering as our adults. , can withstand these blows, once the child is interrupted, it will be difficult to restore the child's patience.
How to improve children's ''false effort'' and stay away from ''intermittent learning''?
Do the right thing at the right time
''Thinking diligently can be courageous and diligent, beneficial thinking + insisting on doing things, this is the full sense of diligence. ''There is a purpose and meaning behind every diligence. Each of us has limited time, and time will never come back. As a parent, we must cultivate children from an early age to make good use of time and make good use of time. Do the right things in time, put them into effective actions, and don’t waste time in vain. When it’s time to learn, let the children devote themselves to learning, and don’t be interfered by other factors.
allocate energy reasonably
Everyone's energy is limited, and too much investment is sometimes a waste of time and expressions, and can't get the desired effect. Sometimes children stay in the room for a few hours to do homework and study silently, but this Is it really hard to study hard for a few hours? Maybe the child is in a daze with textbook assignments or doing other things that have nothing to do with learning? As parents, we should not only play a supervisory role, but also play a role in rationally allocating children's study time. They have no concept of time and their own energy. They only know that they are tired and need a rest, and they don't want to study any more. Parents can set a time period as the time for children to focus on learning. During this period, do not set rest or interference factors, so that children can devote themselves to learning and allocate their learning energy reasonably.
Have super executive power
''The real power is not in making plans, but in execution. ''This sentence is more often heard by leaders in the workplace. In fact, this sentence applies to children. Each of us must take action to achieve the goal, and this action is ours. Execution, sometimes when we ask children to do one thing, the first reaction of children will be to push three blocks and four, try to escape, parents should learn to cultivate their children's execution, so that children have a kind of thinking, whether it is in school or going out to society, execution Strength is indispensable, and behind every achievement is hard work and sweat, which are inseparable from our execution; Because they only have to think about what to do in order to improve the quality of learning, which will not only shorten the time, but also improve the quality.
The real effort is not more time than who has put in, but who has the ideal result in the end; the children are fighting at night, studying until late at night, and putting in so much time to study does not mean that she is really working hard. It's time to give yourself a kind of psychological comfort. It's easy to deceive others, but it's easier to deceive yourself. Parents must take this level of good children and not let their children lose at the starting line.