What does 'if you don't have three dishes, chopsticks don't make five, and a table doesn't make six' mean? Ancestor's Experience

The Chinese nation has a civilization of 5,000 years and has always been known as the country of etiquette. This is not only a respect for the five thousand years of Chinese civilization, but also a high praise for our Chinese people! In the continuous development and evolution of Chinese civilization, many civilizations unfortunately disappeared in the long river of history, but many civilizations have been preserved and spread.

As the saying goes, don't listen to the old and suffer in front of us. It also speaks to what our elders and ancestors said, and we still need to learn from them. Just like the experience of table manners left by our ancestors, that is, no three dishes are placed, no chopsticks are placed five, and no mats are placed six. What do these mean?

01 Dishes don't make three, chopsticks don't make five.

In the Chinese civilization, there are not only strict customs regulations on weddings, funerals, and marriages. Our daily life and diet also have many details and attention to detail. The ancients believed that eating, as the most basic living habit and behavior of every person three times a day, is the quality of a person's usual education.

You can even see his homeschooling in the man's eating etiquette, and if the diet is very graceful and courteous, then the man's family can't go wrong. You can also see that the person's family doesn't care about education if you're not polite when you eat, and that's it.

So that's why our elders have warned us about some eating etiquette from a young age. For example, when eating, you should eat all the rice in the bowl without leaving a few grains behind. For another example, don't tap with chopsticks when eating, and so on. These are very rude behaviors. Like our ancestors, we also left some table manners to warn us, the first one is not to put three dishes, it is actually easy to understand, that is, try not to put three dishes on the table.

Because Sanhe Sanji has the same pronunciation, the meaning is not very good. You know, the ancients believed this very much. Generally, we invite friends, colleagues, and bosses to dinner at home to talk about something or promote our relationship. Therefore, it also makes sense to put a few dishes. If there are few people, four dishes and one soup are enough, if there are many people, there will be more. It will also appear to take others very seriously, and others will definitely see what you say differently, or even higher.

It would be very rude to have only three dishes, first of all, the dishes are relatively less styled and will appear colder. Doesn't seem to pay attention to others and doesn't take them seriously. That way, whether you're asking someone to do something, or trying to boost your relationship with a friend, it can backfire.

The second point is the meaning of loose meals. In this way, the impression of the guests is not very good, as if they are driving others away. Naturally, talking about anything is not easy to succeed. Guests may feel that the host is rude and have a bad impression of him. So, that's why we recommend you don't just put three dishes.

Secondly, chopsticks are not five, which is also easy to understand, that is, chopsticks should not be placed in a single quantity. Generally speaking, our table manners are not only dishes, but also some cutlery. Whether the tableware is clean or not can also directly see a person's daily manners. Chopsticks are the most important utensils when we eat.

Chopsticks are usually placed in pairs and should be the same style and length. In this way, the guests will be very happy when they come to eat, otherwise the length will be different, the guests will feel embarrassed when they eat, and they will also feel that the host is rude. For example, when we eat with chopsticks of different lengths, it will be very uncomfortable. And like some friends who have high aesthetic requirements, the length of chopsticks is also a very uncomfortable thing.

And, I believe we all know a truth. For example, the ancients taboo three long and two short, which means very bad. They think it's going to lead them down, bad luck, something bad will happen. Therefore, we should not put five chopsticks in terms of manners and feng shui. This is also our dining etiquette.

02 Not six seats

Next, the last point is that there will be fewer than six seats. I believe everyone is very confused about this, because the number six is ​​a relatively auspicious number no matter what dynasty or angle it is viewed from. So why can't there be six people at a table when we go for noodles?

In fact, this is because in ancient times, most of them were square tables, and a square table was just right for four people. If you sit for six people, no matter how you change the position, it will be uncomfortable for two people to sit at the corner of the square table, and it is far away from the dishes, making it inconvenient to taste the food. This dining experience is poor.

In ancient times, there were a few square tables large enough for many people to sit and eat comfortably. However, such square tables are usually seated by eight or more people. If you only sit for six people, you will inevitably feel indifferent and neglected. Therefore, it is not recommended that only six people sit at a table.

In modern times, however, we don't have to be that troublesome. We have a more convenient round table so that no matter how many people come to eat, we can arrange it well. Also, we're the same distance from the dish, so we don't have to worry about ignoring anyone!

03 Conclusion

In fact, the dietary etiquette of different countries and places also have different customs and etiquette. We can also walk around at a young age and experience the customs and dining etiquette of different regions to enrich our knowledge. But we should also know how to enter the customs of our hometown!

Moreover, we are also very happy today, always making progress and reforms to make our life or transportation more convenient and concise. But what remains unchanged is that we have inherited the civilizational traditions of our ancestors, deeply engraved the word etiquette in our bones, and passed on this spirit to future generations, living up to the title of the state of etiquette of the Chinese nation for five thousand years!