As the saying goes, 'men are afraid to touch their heads, women are afraid to touch their waists.' Why is there such a saying? There is a lot of knowledge

Chinese traditional culture is extensive and profound. The culture of common sayings is the treasure of traditional Chinese folk culture, and it was considered to be the golden class in the past. The common saying culture is deeply rooted in the people. The ancients summed up many wisdom proverbs by summarizing their own life experiences. Some tell future generations how to do things, and some tell people how to live a happy life. It can be said that the common saying culture has been deeply integrated into our life.

Zeng Guofan was able to get along well in official circles, mainly because of his extraordinary wisdom and smooth life. The reason why he has such wisdom is because of the historical masterpiece "The Complete Works of Think Tanks" by Feng Menglong, a ghost in the Ming Dynasty.

When Feng Menglong wrote this "Complete Works of Think Tanks", he said: There is no wisdom in the world, which means that all the wisdom in the world is contained here. Kangxi, who has read the "Complete Works of Think Tanks", also believes that this is a weapon of the state, which is only allowed to be read internally, not externally.

So, what ancient wisdom does this book hide? Today, we combine a saying that men are afraid to touch their heads and women are afraid to touch their waists to see how much knowledge is implied in the wisdom of the ancients.

Whether ancient or modern, there is always a rivalry. When people deal with people, a few details often make or break. If we don't know the truth and touch the principles and bottom lines of others, we will be seen as human beings and slowly isolated in the future. In fact, the main purpose of our learning Chinese and culture is to make us less detours, more convenient to do things, and easier to deal with.

Men are afraid of touching their heads, women are afraid of touching their waists. It seems easy to understand if we take it literally, but here's a question, why was the ancients afraid to touch the waist? What is the deep meaning of this sentence?

First of all, we said that men are afraid to touch their heads.

The reason why men are afraid of being touched actually starts with the ancient Han tradition. Generally speaking, there is often a saying in Buddhism that these people are considered lucky, which is naturally a good thing. But in ancient times, if a person's head was touched for no reason, it was tantamount to humiliation, which was actually a foreshadowing of the gift of the weak crown.

When the ancients reached the age of 20, that is, when they reached the year of the weak crown, they needed to have a coming-of-age ceremony. The man wears three layers of hats on his head, the first layer is black linen, which means he is eligible to enter the official career or assume social responsibility; the second layer is made of white buckskin, indicating that he must serve in the military from now on to defend the territory of the motherland ; The third tier of hats is a common red and black hat, which means that men can participate in sacrifices.

The weak crown gift is so formal and grand, it is naturally sacred in the eyes of the ancients and represents a person's dignity and face. So if you touch a person's head in public it will be considered a humiliation and if the person being touched doesn't fight back, he will leave a weak image in the minds of others.

So men's fear of touching actually means another person's dignity, and if it is trampled at will, it will inevitably create a very unpleasant scene, even tit-for-tat tension.

Next, let's talk about women's fear of touching their waist.

In ancient times, men were usually more noble than women, and women's words and deeds were greatly restricted. There are certain rules for women's clothes, the rule is to wrap them tightly, and even some men don't let women meet outsiders at home.

Under the constraints of this feudal ethics, women have gradually developed the habit of chastity. Women's waists are naturally more sensitive parts and are not easy to touch. In addition, there is a traditional view that men and women are granted intimacy. The ancients believed that if a woman's waist was touched, her husband would definitely touch it. If others do this, they will think that this woman does not obey women's morals, which will bring shame to the family.

In fact, whether a man is afraid of touching his head or a woman is afraid of touching his waist, the most profound meaning is a matter of dignity. If you don't understand these rules and feel free to touch your head or waist, it will be considered impolite and can lead to huge disputes and disasters.